Five Smart Ways to Make Your Child More Organised


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Is your child messy? One that loves decorating the house floor with her toys! Well then children love to be messy; the more the choices on the floor the more their desire to experiment and explore. However, as a parent when I walk into my daughter’s bedroom and scream in pain as the little Lego element pierces into the sole of my foot isn’t the best of experience I would say. As I hold my foot and balter around the room momentarily, my little one watches the show feeling amused and rolling on the floor with hysterical laughter.

So what can we do to make our little ones more organised when they don’t even know what the word means.


  1. The One In One Out Rule: This is the best way to avoid more clutter to clear. As my daughter often retorts, “Mama when there are too many things to tidy-up, I get confused.” So the best solution to avoid any confusion and encouraging the habit of clearing up when you are finished playing, the one in one out rule can do wonders. messy-room3
  2. Limit The Keepsakes: The habit of hoarding and stuffing stuffs for ‘some-day’ use isn’t uncommon among us. I remember my mother saving stuff which was of limited use in the present under the pretext of being ‘more’ useful someday in the future. In the process she gathered more junk than useful stuff. Don’t let this happen with you and your child. ‘If the stuff fits in the box or the shelf then they can stay or else they need to go’; a rule that can make your house go clutter-free.messy-room5
  3. Ask for their help: I remember asking my daughter one day to help me clearing up the mess she had done in her wardrobe. We took each and every piece of dress out of the closet and re-arranged it according to their genre. She helped me in sorting them out, folding them and putting them back in the designated places. I remember how enthusiastic she was in offering her little helping hand in achieving the ‘magnanimous’ task that lay ahead of us; I remember how elated and proud she was after the task-at-hand ended just right. Asking your kids for help in doing little jobs around the house helps them feel more responsible and empowered.messy-room6
  4. Every Item Should Be Given A Home: As a kid I remember my dad always telling me to put things where they should be so that even if I close my eyes and walk right into that place I can find it, sitting right there waiting for me. Wise words from a wise man! And that is exactly what we need to do. When kids ask for something we should tell them where they will find them, and after they finish working or playing with them they should put it back in exactly the place where they picked it up from. In this way we are teaching our kids that every item or every toy in the house has a designated place and it should go back to their home after use.
  5. consumer-vs-shopperRaising Smart Shoppers: Impulsive shopping is a bane rather than a boon. If you want to avoid gathering meaningless things in your house then it is very important to ask a very valuable question ‘Do I need this?’ A very important self-query that can be rightly passed on to the next generation.

Why do children lie?


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Five year old Surbhi was a great story teller. Her parents, Nitya and Devesh were proud of their daughter’s story telling skill. They would often tell their friends and family about her talent, sometimes adding little bits and pieces here and there. A bit of harmless bragging won’t harm, will it; they thought, rather it carves out a much better picture of their daughter and her talent.

As children genetically are Surbhi picked up the hints left by her parents and mastered the art. It wasn’t long enough when apart from mastering the art of story-telling, Surbhi inadvertently picked up the habit of lying. For her it was just another form of story-telling. At her age she was ignorant of the consequences that her benign story might bring; a story that was just a figment of her innocuous brain.

Surbhi would imagine she was having pony princess parties, dress them up and would weave stories around them. She was excellent in making up stories around simple things. During her primary schooling, she would often come home with little Lego figurines from her school. When Nitya asked her why she was bringing home school toys, then she would say that the teachers have asked her to take them home. She would cite tall tales on how good and well behaved she was at school and how impressed her class teacher was with her that she gave the little Legos to her and told her that she was being rewarded for her good behaviour. The unsuspecting Nitya would hardly read between the lines and would in turn be proud of her little princess. However, after some days Surbhi refused to go to school anymore because it seems the ever appreciating teachers had suddenly turned villains. According to her they would scold her for no reason and also would tell her that she was a badly behaved girl. Yet everyday Nitya would find the Lego figurines in Surbhi’s pockets only to be told that now her friends have started giving her the toys.

It was only on one of the PTM’s that Nitya discovered her daughter’s habit of lying. That day Nitya and Devesh sat down to have a long chat with their daughter.

Young children like Surbhi spinning stories around unsuspecting and simple things don’t come as a surprise for us. In fact manipulating the truth for personal gains is viewed as a ‘developmental milestone, much like learning to get dressed by yourself or to take turns.’ Some studies have shown that bright kids who are able to pick up the nugatory and trivial data from their everyday life and spin phenomenal stories around them pick up the skill from a very early age, as early as 2-3 years. For older kids of age 4 and 5, the game is on big time and slowly they start mastering the art. Fortunately, just because your young child is a frequent fabler doesn’t mean that she’ll grow up to be a big, fat liar. However, as parents it is our job to identify the problem early and nip this bad habit before it becomes ingrained. Freaking out and screaming at your kid or punishing her won’t discourage her; in fact she may simply become a better liar to avoid getting caught the next time.


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Before the spin begins:

  1. Being Pro-active. As parents we should always play on our front foot; be pro-active rather than reactive. So we shouldn’t wait to catch our child lying for the first time to teach her the importance of truth and its consequences. He/she is in a much better position to listen to the parents if he/she isn’t on the defensive.
  2. Reading books. Books can help introduce the subject in a way that doesn’t seem accusatory. Books like Princess K.I.M. and the Lie That Grew, by Maryann Cocca-Leffler, or Tell the Truth, B.B. Wolf are some books that are good in introducing the concept. Stories like Pinocchio and his Growing Nose are also best examples to introduce the little ones to the consequences of lying. Citing personal examples on how you lied when you were a child and what consequences followed will make the learning more at home.
  3. Setting examples. Children love to imitate their parents so citing personal examples and setting examples for them to follow through your daily behaviour on how you deal with situations and come out of it can give them a moral boost and encourage them not to lie.
  4. Talking to them about special cases. When children reach certain age say about 7 or 8 years, they begin to understand the nuances of being ‘prosocial’ or telling white lies. These are lies which are said in order to protect someone from getting hurt, (like you tell you love the present given by your mom or someone close to you even though you do not like it). In such cases as parents it is our duty to explain to our children that although we are telling a lie to save someone from getting hurt yet these are exceptions to honesty that cannot be resorted to on a regular basis to bail them out from difficult situations. A clear demarcation of boundaries is as important as conceptualization.
  5. Spending quality time with your children. Sometimes children lie to get your attention or when they feel that they are being neglected. They lie to cover up their insecurities; whether inside the house or outside; insecurities about school or about friends and peers. Talking to them about their fears and helping them over come them can only be done by talking to them and spending quality time.

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When There’s a Whopper in the Works:

You walk into your house after a bad day at work and find an elaborate drawing, made in permanent marker, on your bedroom wall. Uh-oh! The culprit knows she has invited trouble big time. Can’t you just see her little brain toiling extra time to come up with a way to wriggle out of situation? Even if you sense a con job coming, it’s not too late to help her come clean.

  1. Stay Calm. Although you are already in a battle within yourself but staying calm and not losing your temper is the only key to pull back your child from falling prey to the temptation. Children often take the easy way out when they fear your response.
  2. Don’t manipulate the little mind. The ice-cream that you bought yesterday is no-where to be found. When you walk into her room you see her playing with her toys, the ends of her lips still bearing the remnants of the ice-cream that she had tried hard to wipe clean with her tongue. Asking her whether she has done it or not is pointless for although you see it she doesn’t and she will try her best not to own up to it. So the best you can do instead of accusing her directly is tell her that ‘it is okay to catch a sweet snack in between meals but it is always the right thing to first ask Mommy about it.’
  3. Appreciate her honesty. Children love to be appreciated for the little good gestures and behaviour they do. The appreciation gives a positive vibe to them encouraging them to carry on the good work. So next time your child is honest make sure you do not miss the opportunity of appreciating her honesty. Little things can go great lengths.

One at a time….

Saanvi with ice-cream

Its quite amusing to think that how assertive and conniving a 5 year old can be and can become to get exactly what is needed. Okay I might sound a bit hysterical but these little human beings can go to extents that my 80’s mind can never think of. Well ‘Google Age’ kids eh! It is often said that parenthood and becoming parents is the most wonderful thing on earth. But I beg to disagree; no not on the many good things that parenthood offers; but the little surprises packed in little boxes but with a lethal punch they offer.

Summers arrived late in Denmark. It looked like it would never come at all. But thankfully the sun is shining bright and the ice-cream season is finally here. My 5 year old goes berserk when it comes to ice-creams. So on a hot day like this day, Mama and daughter decide to go to the nearby ice-cream parlour and treat ourselves to a nice and cool ice-cream treat.

As we trudged briskly towards the kiosk, I am bombarded with an incessant tirade of queries and probed meticulously. And since what I say might backfire, I carefully choose my words. I finally managed to dodge the bombardment successfully as I entered the shop feeling elated at my accomplishment.

Now comes the trickiest part; the juxtaposition for making a choice; big or small, large or extra large, cone or stick; then comes the flavours, chocolate or strawberry, vanilla or raspberry, and so on and so forth. The more the plethora of choices offered, the drastically extravagant her choices become. And given the scope, my 5 year old would order each and every variety that the shop has to offer. So she retorts, with her ever persistent self, unflagging tone and docile look,

“Mama can I have 3 ice-creams? They look so yummy and am sure they all taste divine as well.” She said with a hint of belligerence.

‘How does she manage to do this each time’, I thought to myself. ‘And most of all who teaches her these things?’ But does anyone need to teach these little masters anything; I guess they are born with the Pandora box.

“No sweetheart you cannot have ‘three’ ice-creams at the same time. You need to choose.” I said.

“Why can’t I have 3 ice-creams? It’s so hot today and 3 ice-creams are just what this little body needs. One for the head, second for the torso and third for my legs. Then my whole body cools down. If I have only one then it won’t serve the purpose, will it? So you see asking for ‘three’ ice-creams isn’t being unreasonable! Period.”

Wow! When I was 5 years old I do not remember giving a similar reason for asking more; in fact I cannot even think of it even now.

Unfortunately for the kiddo and fortunately for me my affable and persuasive tone of selecting just one did the trick and she settled for the ‘water melon’ shaped coolant stick but not before tending me an ultimatum.

“Just remember Mama next time don’t get me this water-melon ice-cream okay. I will instead have the bear one, one with the red nose. And since you insist that I have only one at a time, I would rather prefer the large size than the small stick.”

And she walks off…and I think “AajKal ke bachche”!

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Trip to Kvie Sø

When we decided to hang our boots, go a step down and sit back and enjoy the Danish country side this summer, little did we know that we will stumble across some amazing picturesque locations near our place of stay, Billund. Kvie Sø is one such place; the kind of place where one would like to go with the family, spread the sheet, lie down, enjoy the barbecue, take a cool dip in the water, engage in some bunkum and then end the trip with a delightful pancake meal.


Set amongst the trees, hiding away from the regular rabble, in an offbeat concourse, Kvie Sø is a perfect weekend gate away from the city hustle and bustle.







We started a bit late, just waiting for the blazing sun to sober a bit. And since the days are longer now and the place is open till 10 P.M, we did not mind starting late. It is about 30 min drive from the Billund city center. Whether you decide to carry your own dinner to catch a relaxing bite with the peacocks poking around or catch a bite in the ‘Pancakes’ restaurant, Kvie Sø offers plenty of quality family time in a serene atmosphere, just what is needed after a week’s hard work.














The impeccable silence among the trees, the occasional barking of a pet in the vicinity, the fading sounds of civilization as you take a walk around the serene looking lake, the serendipity of the setting sun, the glistening of the water due to the gentle ripples, and the water impersonating the colours of the sky above is an experience that can only be felt and soaked in.








I am a gatherer of impressions, travelling through places and people in search of moments; startling moments that scream, and mundane moments that whisper. The trip to Kvie Sø was a conglomeration of the moments that came together to give this nomad another experience to last a lifetime.

The Midsummer Bonfire

I suppose I am always in look out for a story; especially, when I am travelling. Its always the local stories that go behind the local traditions and the local food that fascinates me. I think in order to assimilate with the local culture and understand people in an adopted country, knowing their culture and the history behind that culture and tradition is very important. The stories that give rise to decades old tradition are not mere stories. In fact I think they are a lot more than a string of words strung together to form a, more or less, linear, dramatic arc. These stories matter so much and are the ones that have been held on to and kept the longest, because they are the stories that are build, organically, with no boundaries set in theme or time; these are the stories of who we are; each one of us. What our lives mean. Who we love and count among our tribe, our family. What be believe, truly in our hearts. Why we strive. These are stories, and the people and places we choose to include as characters and settings, enter in and leave us. Some stay. Most move on. Some are like snowflakes that arrive gently and some are like hail that batter us hard. But they’re all pieces of this puzzle we call life.

As we begin the second year in Denmark, learning more about the local culture and the stories that have given rise to this culture is up on my agenda. And to further this agenda, I begin with the first tradition that is celebrated across the country to mark the summer solstice and the eve of St John the Baptist alleged birthday, the Sankt Hans or the Midsummer Bonfire.


In Denmark this day is celebrated on the 23rd of June, the eve of the summer solstice. It is something similar to celebrating Christmas eve more than Christmas. To mark the occasion, gathering and celebrations are organised where people bring in their picnic dinner to share, huge bonfires are lit, music is both sung and played, and speeches are made.


Sankt Hans is the Danish name of St. John the Baptist who was allegedly born on 24th June. Huge bonfires are lit to ward of any evil that were presumed to be roaming freely when the sun was slowly turning towards the south side again. They are lit in order to protect people from the evil eyes of the witches who were believed to become powerful during this astronomical transitional phase as they often met more powerful beings to increase their dark powers.

In ancient times, during the period of 1540 to 1693, many women who were considered witches by the church were burnt alive in these bonfires in Denmark. However, from the 1920’s an effigy of a witch made out of straw and cloth was burnt traditionally in the bonfire as a remembrance to the past brutality that were inflicted upon many innocents. In the modern era, the witches are now made out wood. People gather around the bonfire and sing midsummer hymns as the effigy burns. It is believed that the burning of the ‘symbolic witch’ would send the witch to Bloksbjerg, the Brocken mountain in the Harz region of Germany where it is believed that the great witch gathering was held on this day.

We celebrated this tradition as a couple this year as our little one had fallen asleep in her stroller. It is said the occasion is best celebrated near the water. As we do not have any water body in Billund, we celebrated it in a nearby park with a huge crowd gathering with live music, dance and grilled and roasted bread and of course drinks. A gospel choir entertained hundreds of spectators with a short concert and at 9 pm the bonfire was set ablaze. We stood there watching the fire, pulling our jackets close, as it was a windy day, and clapped merrily with the crowd. 20150623_214946